Me, the new Dr. Phil
Ok. So that day when my sister-in-law had some emotional problems, she turned to me. Then upon remembering the 8 master questions that Des used to mention, I told her to think about some questions. I then came up with these 11 questions that somehow just popped into my head. Seriously. Didnt check any websites or stuff liddat. But somehow, in a weird and strange way, the questions nearly all made sense. But I must admit. Somehow, they also mostly just applies to girls, and only in some cases to guys. And here they are, complete with my reasons why or my attempt to reason why it appears so:
1)when ur down n out,whose shoulder dya wanna lie on?
Somehow, this almost always applies to girls. Dunno why. Maybe that provides a sense of security and belonging? Which according to a TV show I watched a couple of weeks back, are two of the most important elements to a relationship.
2)when ur alone at nite,who dya tink of?
Normally, I would think that this person would be someone very special. Cos in my opinion, you would only think of a person who has made a strong impression in your mind in such a time. I mean, we wouldnt be thinking of a boring teacher at night. We would be thinking of someone we view very highly right?
3)who dya first tink of when u first wake up?
Well. This one definitely appealed to me before. So yeah, I believe that this person whom you think of when you first open your eyes in the morning, is the one that will fill your thoughts for e rest of the day. Obviously, if this person happens to be a boring teacher, please do not hestitate to see a shrink. Btw, of cos this excludes family members.
4)who dya tink of when u juz before u go to slp?
This was based on a very logical thinking. If this answer tallies with e one above (it usually is), then that person would be in your thoughts usually for the majority of the day. Meaning that the person would be the first one you thought of when you first wake up and the last person that leaves your conscious mind for the day, probably in the hope that the person would be in your dreams? This logic is the same one as the reasoning behind the principle of not letting the sun go down in our anger.
5)when ur ard him,n he touches u,be it accidentally or wat,do u immediately feel faint or flushed?
Ok. This is a total ripoff of something I read on the Internet. Strange but true. One of life's wonderful mysteries I suppose.
6)when u tink 5,10,15 years down e road,who dya tink u'll be with?
Hmmm. I wasnt really thinking about this question. Dunno. It's the most inconsequential question of the lot.
7)in daily life,does everything seem to remind u of him?
Right. This seems to appeal to girls. Never applies to majority of guys I think. Maybe cos girls are supposed to be more emotional and sentimental? But I've read somewhere that this happens cos we have that person in our mind, so much so that something common or mundane like a regular teacup can remind us of that person, maybe reminding us of a previous similar experience, like having a spot of tea with that person.
8)when u gaze into e stars or moon at nite dya get e feeling tt u wanna b right nxt to him at tt moment?
See, I have this belief that the night sky is a mystical thing in a way. The myth of wishing upon a star or a falling comet originates from the old belief that the things of the sky represents part of Heaven or a good luck sign. And it's common to find couples gazing into the night sky. Night time normally represents the time where our bodies start to relax and feel most comfortable, and we somehow get drawn to think about our "heart matters", to steal a phrase. Where our heart lies, we get a representation of the person in the sky. Like the star constellations, stars can somehow show a representation of our thoughts. But that's just my theory.
9)at times,dya hv e urge to call him n just tell him hw u feel?
Dunno. This one just seemed pretty important at the time, but I dont really think it can point to anything other then constant frustration due to the other party not getting the hints (This one's a 2nd level joke).
10)when u hv absolutely no one else to rely on,who dya expect to b there no matter what?
This one's the most practical one. See, this person is one that you trust with your whole heart and feel that when the world is against you, that person will still be there for you. It's another question about how secure you are. We will all have times where we go thru a rough patch and get the feeling that no one understands us. But we somehow will be comforted by this person's presence. I feel this is the greatest indicator of who do you have feelings for. This person will ultimately be who you want as your pillar of strength.
11)if u were stranded on a desert island,who dya wanna b stranded with if u cld onli choose one person?
This one's a total ripoff. But it still shows who you really wanna be with in life I guess, the person whom you feel will be your better half. I have personally never understood fully the meaning of this. Maybe I will in the future. Personally, I'd hate it if one day I vanished from Singapore and appeared in a desert somewhere just cos my best friend wished that I was there with him. I mean, cmon lah, I'd be pissed, not super touched. That being said, given the choice I'd choose the one person I could stand the LEAST.
So. That's my 11 questions of knowing if you really like a guy/gal. Maybe I should put in on Friendster and do it into a bulletin. Haha. Well anyone who wanna try this on yourself is welcome to do so. And if there's anything that anyone might wanna add or rebutt or offer their own opinion on, feel free to leave a taggy.
Till the next time, Dan signing off.
